Bryan Hullihen

For many individuals in early recovery from drug and alcohol abuse identifying one’s values and morals can be a difficult exercise. From a dialectic perspective it makes sense for a therapist to do this with their clients as it allows one to see how they have not been living in accordance with their ideals. This process can be the beginning of affecting lasting change in an individual’s life by allowing them to exhibit behaviors more indicative of their virtues. In theory, and practice, this idea makes a lot of sense, however, for many people in early recovery the identity comprising the individual from their own perspective is more closely aligned with thoughts that are diametrical to their professed values and morals. So how can one once again see that they are, in fact, worthy of their virtues? A practice that many begin this process, which can be done by anybody at any time, is telling one’s “life story” using only successes in two minutes. No talk of death, divorce, failure, or h...

Being in early recovery with the holidays approaching is typically a scary time for most individuals. Many people will be attending their first sober Christmas and New Years after several years of active drug and alcohol abuse and the importance of a solid holiday plan cannot be understated. Recognizing this as a high-risk situation can start the process of employing a relapse prevention plan that may save the life of the individual in early recovery attempting to navigate the holidays. My name is Bryan Hullihen and I have assisted countless families and individuals through this process. Although the people and situations have broad variability the plans themselves remain consistent. In some cases, usually extreme, spending the holidays with the family is not a good idea. For these folks it is typically recommended that they schedule their time to be with their sober support group, especially during the days and times they will likely be most vulnerable and susceptible to relapse. Fo...

The trite expression of “old habits die hard” could not be any more true than it is for those in early recovery. When an individual is learning how to live a life of sobriety after several years of self-centered thinking their new life is often viewed through a lens of distorted perceptions. Attempting to let go of the things that we think we know about what we need in this process was the hardest part for me. When I, Bryan Hullihen , was in early recovery I still thought that I knew best regarding what I needed to be successful in beating my addiction. I can laugh, to myself, when I am working with someone in early recovery when they say the same things I did when I was where they are. I often hear, “I just need to finish college, get a job, meet a nice girl, and hang around a better crowd”. Although all of these things are good they were not what I “needed”. It wasn’t until I had undergone a paradigm shift where my new declaration of what I needed became, “I just need to focus on m...

My name is Bryan Hullihen and today I’d like to talk about staying teachable. I have worked in the field of substance abuse treatment since 2008 and have facilitated countless intakes into varying degrees of treatment. One of the primary indicators of how successful one’s stay will be is compliance to the treatment plan while the other is the therapeutic alliance. A client is ultimately given an entire team of professionals to assist them in their road to recovery; however, in many cases those seeking treatment set out to tell their team what they need in order to recover. I compare this type of behavior to a below average golfer taking lessons from Tiger Woods while telling Mr. Woods he doesn’t know what he is talking about. The more an individual in early recovery can get out of their own way and allow those tasked with guiding them do what they do, the better off one will be. Letting go of the tiller or getting out of the driver’s seat is not an easy thing to do for someone in ear...

My name is Bryan Hullihen and I have worked in the field of substance abuse treatment, in one way or another, since 2008. Prior to that I battled my own addiction at progressing levels since I was thirteen. I didn’t recover until I learned that, while in active addiction or early recovery, my thinking could not be trusted. Although addiction infiltrates mind, body, and spirit it was my thinking that kept me sick. Some of my best plans lead me back to addictive behaviors until I began to take direction from those who knew better long enough for my brain to heal and for my recovery to become established on solid ground. The purpose of this blog is to provide a forum for discussing the insidious nature of addiction and the precarious nature of early recovery. I look forward to reading your comments and feel free to post your own personal stories. Remember that this blog is public so don’t post anything confidential or things that you do not want others to read. Sincerely, Bryan ...